Question: My boyfriend has been cheating on me and now I think I have an STD because of this. What can I do?
Amtrak: OK, if you think that you have contracted an STD from your cheating ex (I hope by now that is his status), you need to get tested.
There really is no way to determine the difference between Vaginitis, which can be simply caused by too much rough sex, and, say, chlamydia, a common STD that has about 4 million cases a year in the United States.
If you are beginning to doubt you have an STD, you may be wrong. One-half of the men and three-quarters of the women walking around with chlamydia don’t even know they have contracted it.
Some infections may share the same symptoms as common problems. A study published in 2002 by the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology found only one-third of women self treating for vaginal yeast infections had correctly diagnosed themselves.
That means a majority of the people had some other serious complication.
The Trojan Condoms Web site, http://www.trojancondoms.com/default.aspx?jumpFrame=health_center, has a great information section about STDs and health-related issues.
Around Stillwater, there are several places to get tested and treated for an STD. (It’s always the towns you least expect.) And in all cases, information is kept confidential and treatment is usually as simple as antibiotics.
University Health Services has information and can set up a confidential consultation with a Health Care Provider. See http://www.okstate.edu/UHS/uhssti.htm for contact information.
Lastly, be prepared to confront your ex on this matter. Although he may deserve painful urination and awful-smelling discharge, confronting him is the right thing to do. Just don’t confront him in a crowded supermarket parking lot.
My friend did this when he was diagnosed with a common but highly discomforting STD. Although he was able to confront his now ex-girlfriend, an entire IGA store knew that she had given the gift of the clap.
Slim: Sexually transmitted diseases are not something I know a lot about (thankfully), so I will let Amtrak handle that side of the issue while I deal with the cheating.
Dealing with a cheating boyfriend is something that hopefully no girl will ever have to go through more than once, if ever. It is incredibly difficult to handle. You have to think with your brain instead of your heart, and when you love someone, that can be truly difficult. You’re faced with the question: Do you break up or stay together?
I have been both cheated on and the cheater. It doesn’t really matter which side of the issue you are on because they are both terrible. Seeing as you’re on the “been cheated on” side, I’ll tell you a little about my experience with that.
I was in a relationship, and we had been together for two years. He was starting to become a little sketchy about things, and so I did a little investigative work (sometimes him just telling you that nothing is going on is not enough). He told me that he was at work, so I went to say hello. He was not there. When we got together that evening, I asked him about it. Of course he tried to cover up his lie with excuse after excuse, but finally he came clean. I broke up with him. What else was I supposed to do, right?
I shortly realized that maybe breaking up with him wasn’t the best idea. I missed him more than anything, and it felt as though I had just been through a rough divorce. After a few months, I took him back. We stayed together for a few more years, but it was rocky. Our relationship was never really the same after that.
If you honestly feel you can’t live without him, maybe giving him another shot is the right answer for you. I know some girls would say never give him another chance, but it’s your life, not anyone else’s. You have to live your life the way you want to. If he screws up again, then you will know that it’s probably not meant to be.
The decision is yours and yours alone. I’m sorry you’re in the situation, but as everyone does, you will get through it.
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