Amtrak: Congratulations! Whether it was with your relationship of eight months or eight hours you need to be aware of a couple things. Sex is how babies are made. Sex can make you sick. If you attended public school, these two facts have been used to scare you abstinent for years, so it’s no surprise that you’re asking “what now questions.”
You need to begin looking at a safe way to enjoy your new activity. For years you have been taught about condoms and oral contraceptives. There is an entire niche of products devoted to safe sex. Here are a few:
Abstinence- 100 percent of the time it works all the time. Though, mostly boring.
Condoms — Every person by now should be aware of condoms. For those who are new to the operation of these, take a deep breath; there are instructions on the package. Condoms are ranked by the Center for Disease Control as the most effective way to prevent pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs).
Oral Contraceptives— These are prescribed by a doctor and are one of the most effective tools for women. Most work by regulating hormones in the female body, but are often used incorrectly and outside the guidelines of the manufacturer, thus providing no protection. They also won’t prevent contracting an STD.
Diaphragms — These are an effective way to prevent sperm from coming in contact with an egg. This is accomplished by blocking the opening of the cervix. The advantage is no hormone regulation therapy is necessary. See your medical provider with any questions.
Life is filled with choices. In researching this article I stumbled across several informative Web sites. Http://www.trojan.com has a good information section and is ideal for newcomers. You can even get a free sample of their products.
Sex is a hands-on experience that is to be enjoyed by both partners. The right contraceptive, paired with a condom, can keep you from explaining an unplanned trip to University Health Services or an unplanned visit from the stork.
Slim: The first set of questions I have is how you lost your virginity and with whom. Did you lose your virginity in the back seat of a car or did you lose it in a romantic way? Did you lose it with a guy you met at a party or with someone you love? The answers to these questions will help determine what to do next.
If you lost your virginity to someone you hardly knew, the situation might be sticky. Typically, when two people who barely know each other have sex, it is very impersonal and tense. It’s difficult to make a connection and really get to know the other person. This might make the morning after a little awkward. In all honesty, you might never see or hear from the person again, and that’s the risk you take. This would be a rough way to lose your virginity, but definitely a learning experience.
On the other hand, if you are in a relationship and finally decided to make the leap of faith, things should be easier. Already knowing someone on a personal level and having a connection makes the sex better. The most important thing is making sure the lines of communication stay open between. If you loved the person before having sex, the new physical intimacy you share should reinforce the emotional connection that already existed in your relationship.
No matter what situation you find yourself in, communicate. What’s done is done, so learn from your experience and move on.
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